The Devil Wears Prada – Emily and a History of Workaholics

“A million girls
would kill for this job.” Emily Charlton of
The Devil Wears Prada is the textbook image
of the workaholic. She lives at the office,
and expects others to do the same. “You are chained
to that desk.” She cares about nothing
more than pleasing her boss. “Now we have to make sure
that they all think she knows exactly who they are. And
I’ve been studying for weeks.” On one level she’s a product
of the fashion industry, embodying its most toxic,
destructive standards. “I’m one stomach flu away
from my goal weight.” But back in 2006,
she also reflected a more general trend
that we’ve seen explode in the years since the movie. Modern American culture
has a love affair with working yourself to the bone. “Where have
you been?” “Sleeping.” [Laughing]
“What, all night?” Emily encapsulates
the valor and virtue we attach to constantly
being busy and overstretched. And her story reveals the dark
side of living to work — Emily’s devotion to her job literally
starves her and nearly kills her. You might say Emily’s cautionary
tale prefigured today’s #ThankGodIt’sMonday culture. “We have medium-speed Wi-Fi,
draft beer on tap–” “Okay, what? Girl, I hope
I get to work here!” So to better understand
the Emilys of our times, we’re taking a deep look
at the history of workaholism in cinema and TV, and asking
whether it’s possible to survive the rat race with your
sense of self in tact. “Thank god it’s Friday, right?.” This video is brought
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Better Help today. “I’m gonna work
until I’m 100 and then cut back
to four days a week. Oh, God. I’m already so bored
thinking about that one day off.” The term “workaholism”
dates back to 1971, when it was coined to describe: “the compulsion or
the uncontrollable need to work incessantly” Onscreen workaholics
cover a range of personalities, but they follow some
common patterns. The positive view of
the workaholic is someone driven
by pure passion. “This is gonna be so much fun!
All-night work! All-night work!” Often they’re in a high-powered,
high-stakes career, and their exhilarating job is framed
as the ultimate adrenaline rush. “That was such a high. l don’t
know why anybody does drugs.” The darker interpretation of
the workaholic character is someone fueled by
cutthroat personal ambition, “Greed, for lack of
a better word, is good.” or who’s using their job
to fill a deeper emotional void. “She’s a workaholic. Works frantically to avoid
dealing with her weird mix of lack of self-worth
and narcissism. I really like her.” Almost universally,
the workaholic character neglects
their personal life. “Hey, don’t you
people ever sleep?” Don’t any of you have
husbands, wives and kids, lives?” “No.” When you’re responsible for serious
matters, or even people’s lives, it’s easy to justify your job taking
precedence over everything else. “This is the most important
thing l’ll ever do, Jenny. l have to do it well.” “lt’s not more important
than your marriage.” “lt is more important than
my marriage right now.” But because they spend
all their time at the office, the workaholic struggles
to maintain relationships. “You can get me
a date for tonight. Actually, make
that three dates. Who knows when I’m gonna
get another night off?” Work is their mistress — the
lover who always comes first. “Why don’t you not go to work
tomorrow? Take the day off.” “Me not work?” We can see the origins
of today’s work culture in the second industrial revolution,
from about 1870 to 1914. With urbanization and
the rise of factories, for the first time people had to
organize their workday around hours of work completed
rather than sunlight. This led to the question of how
long a workday should be, and the danger of exploiting
workers through excessive hours. Labor unions campaigned
for an 8-hour workday, which evolved into what
we today call a 9-to-5 job. Early 20th-century
cinema classics like Metropolis and
Modern Times, reflected fears about
industrialization’s effects on society and alluded to
the risk of turning human beings into uniform cogs in a machine. “The Bellows Feeding Machine
will eliminate the lunch hour, increase your production,
and decrease your overhead.” The second half of
the 20th-century saw the birth of
the workplace sitcom. The Guardian’s Charles
Bramesco argues that “from the 70s through
the tail end of the 90s, the sitcom’s predominant attitude
toward the hassles of work was begrudging acceptance” “Christmas is just like any other
day when you work in a newsroom — You know what I mean?” “Um, no.” “You gotta work
on Christmas.” “I’ve gotta work
on Christmas?” The 90s was the slacker era. “That’s funny, because I haven’t
seen you working for a while. A long while.” During this stable, prosperous
decade in America, onscreen characters seemed less
interested in work than ever. “I don’t think my
boss likes me either.” “I don’t think mine
likes me either.” “Maybe it’s a universal thing.” “Or maybe it’s because
you’re all hanging around here at 11:30 on
a Wednesday.” Meanwhile at the movie theater,
a narrative emerged of men rebelling against
their deadening, soul-crushing office jobs. “I don’t like my job and I don’t
think I’m going to go anymore.” These 90s films
captured a resentment over being made a cog in
the corporate machine, so you could see them
as a spiritual update to those early 20th
century films about the drudgery of factory work. Fast-forward to now and you’re
more likely to see people performing their love of work. “To do what you love, that
is just doing what you feel fulfilled by and
what drives you.” So what happened?
In short: the tech industry. New York Times
writer Erin Griffith argues that today’s work culture
comes from the fact that, starting around the new millennium,
tech companies began offering, “perks meant to help companies
attract the best talent and keep employees at their
desks longer.” “Google was just a little
startup like we are. And when they started bringing
in chefs and masseuses, we thought,
‘They’re nuts!’” “And now they’re
worth over $400 billion.” We can see this practice at play
in The Devil Wears Prada, too. Sure, Andy gets to go
to Paris fashion week, raid the Runway closet,
and take home whatever expensive products her boss
doesn’t want for herself, “Miranda didn’t want it, so–” “No, no, no, no, no.
This bag is, like, $1,900. I cannot take this from you.” but in the long run, wouldn’t
more vacation time or higher pay be
worth a lot more? “We get emails from you
at your office at 2:00 a.m. Your pay is terrible.” According to Griffith,
mainstream culture has been shaped by companies
like WeWork with, quote, “its brand of performative
workaholism.” “with WeWork you should
expect a space to make a life not
just a living” Our culture has created
a kind of glamour around working constantly. “Kirsten keeps a cot
in her office. Rick keeps a Tempur-Pedic
cot in his office. It’s like the Tesla of cots.” In 2006, Emily
was already completely sold on
performative workaholism. “I love my job, I love
my job. I love my job.” She’s brainwashing herself
into believing she loves her job, in order to make it through
another punishing day, and that raises the question: if our modern world
is full of Emilys, how many of us
are doing the same? “I already have
my dream job.” “You’re a corporate
research analyst!” “Oh, you’re right.
My job sucks.” To really understand
how Emily builds on the onscreen workaholic
trope, we can’t overlook that she’s a working woman — a
subset of the workaholic character, who has her own
complicated history. “Sometimes I get concerned
about being a career woman. I get to thinking my job
is too important to me.” Across movies and TV,
we can see three basic “working girl” character
types, though they tend to have some overlap: One, the spunky, working
everywoman. This character type
was most famously embodied by Mary
Tyler Moore. Bramesco argues
that for Mary, “simply existing as a 30-year-old
single woman in a competitive and male-dominated
workplace counted as a win” “I’m working here in
the newsroom. Associate producer.
Can you believe that?” In an era where
many women still did not work
outside the home, there was a sense
of victory in being able to have a career
of your own. “Miss Olsen, you are now
a junior copywriter.” “Is this really happening?” Viewers can see themselves in
the working everywoman character. “No lunch. I got
speech class.” “What do you need speech
class for you talk fine.” We usually meet her
at the beginning of her working life,
which helps us connect to her
emotionally and feel her ups and
downs as our own. She inspires us by
representing work as a source of empowerment. [Singing] “You’re gonna
make it after all.” Two, the career woman
as cautionary tale. Unlike with the everywoman,
we’re often introduced to this character when she’s
well into her career and her commitment to her
job is no longer framed in such a flattering light. “Just because you have
no semblance of a life outside of this office,
you think that you can treat all of us like your
own personal slaves.” In fact, we could read
this trope as a cultural backlash to the young
everywoman. “This woman is
my secretary.” This is highlighted in
Working Girl, where Tess, a clear example of
our first character type, discovers that career woman
Katherine is a jaded villain trying to pass off Tess’
idea as her own. “She rifled through
my desk, found my memo outlining a Trask
radio acquisition and has been passing it
off as her idea.” “It was my idea.” The career woman is
essentially the female version of the workaholic
absentee father who doesn’t spend time with his family. “Peter, you’re missing it.” “Alright. I want a meeting,
tomorrow a.m.” “Dad, my game!
You promised.” And she often has to learn
to step back from her career and make room
for romantic love. “I’ve got a big day.” “You’ve always got a big day.
Even on the weekends, you have a big day. You
can’t let this job be your life.” This set-up makes her
a fixture of rom-coms. And three, the boss
superwoman. This high-powered woman
is killing it at her job, and her drive is portrayed as part
of what makes her fabulous. “I’m going to kick some ass,
and remind them that I’m fierce.” This character type took off in
the 2000s and is a staple of Shonda Rhimes shows. It may even borrow from real life,
as Rhimes’ success has made her into an aspirational figure
much like the women she creates, and she’s spoken positively
about being a workaholic. “I work a lot, very
hard, and I love it. When I am hard at work,
when I am deep in it, there is no other feeling. It is hitting every high note.
It is running a marathon. It is being Beyoncé.” In part, this character’s
fabulosity comes from the fact that she makes
her own money, which puts her in total control
of her own life. “You can’t afford me.” The ladies of Sex and the City
prefigured this character type because the show
explored the power of financial independence
and not needing to rely on a man for economic support. “And with that, Ms. Miranda Hobbes
Esquire, a.k.a. ‘just me’ bought herself her first
apartment and promptly took herself out for a drink.” Interestingly, the three main
female characters of Devil Wears Prada
seem to fit neatly into these categories — Andy is the spunky
working girl we root for “Well, look, you gotta start
somewhere, right?” and Miranda is the cautionary tale
who represents the danger of sacrificing your personal
life for a career, “Just imagine what they’re
gonna write about me. The Dragon Lady,
career-obsessed.” and Emily is going
for category three: the utterly fabulous
existence of the high-powered
glamour workaholic. “I get to go with her to Paris
for Fashion Week in the fall. I get to wear couture. I go to all the shows
and all the parties. I meet all of
the designers. It’s divine.” Except that, to
the outside viewer, Emily’s life hardly
appears that great. “Remember, you and
I have totally different jobs. I mean, you get coffee
and you run errands yet I am in charge
of her schedule, her appointments
and her expenses.” In Emily’s eyes, Miranda belongs
in superwoman category three, but the movie places her
firmly in villainous category two. “You chose to get ahead.
You want this life, those choices are necessary.” Emily is so enthralled
by the myth of Miranda that she looks
right past this, and that leaves her aspiring
towards an empty ideal. This reflects our
contemporary lives, too. “A woman. That
that’s a minus.” “Well, of course it’s a fucking
minus! I didn’t make the world.” We may be in an era where
powerful, hard-working women are lionized onscreen,
but society itself is not set up to reward
female workaholics. Even if a woman is doing
extremely well in her career, there’s still discomfort
around her success. “He offered it to me. To be next.” “Because I thought that it was
something that we wanted for me.” Many heterosexual couples
are unwilling to reveal when a woman is the breadwinner. And Aliya Hamid Rao writes
for The Atlantic that “the more economically
dependent men are on their wives, the less
housework they do. In other words, women’s
success in the workplace is penalized at home.” So it’s clear that our
world has a long way to go before category three,
the working superwoman, becomes more than a fiction. Emily’s devotion to
her work rivals religiosity. Our modern day obsession
with work can be traced back to the Calvinist branch
of Protestantism. Sociologist Max Weber
wrote that because Calvinists believed
in predestination, they sought to be
successful in order to prove they were part
of “the elect” destined to go to heaven. Today it’s not hard to see how
the Calvinist idea of a “calling” has evolved into people
seeing their careers as representing their
life’s purpose. “I devote myself
completely to my job. It’s what I do. It’s all I am.” In a modern spin on
the Protestant Work Ethic, some have argued that
work has now effectively replaced religion
as the arena where Americans
seek meaning in our modern lives. “A lot of people have
essentially turned to work to find the very things they used
to seek from traditional religions: transcendence, meaning,
community, self-actualization, a totalizing purpose in life.” We may be using nonstop
work or busy-ness to fill a deeper existential void
as Tim Kreider writes, “obviously your life cannot
possibly be silly or trivial or meaningless if you are
so busy, completely booked, in demand every
hour of the day.” “I get 20 minutes for
lunch, and you get 15.” Worshiping at the altar
of work turns the ‘boss’ figure into a kind of deity. “She saved me,
she saved Huck, she saved Quinn,
she saved you.” “Boar on the floor!”
“I really I feel” “Get down!
Boar on the floor.” [Oinking noises]
[Laughing] [Screaming]
“I got it!” There’s perhaps no better
encapsulation of the boss-god than Emily’s worship of Miranda
Priestly as an almost mythical, superhuman being. “She’s the editor in chief of
Runway–not to mention a legend.” Many people turn to religion
to make sense of the world. But work wasn’t designed
to do such a thing — as Derek Thompson
writes in The Atlantic, “The modern labor force
evolved to serve the needs of consumers and
capitalists, not to satisfy tens of millions of people
seeking transcendence at the office.” Thus, the root of the problem
is that we’re told to look for profound meaning in our
work in the first place. “And the only way to be
truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great
work is to love what you do.” On the surface this may
seem like good advice — ⅓ of your life is spent at work,
so ideally that time should be devoted to something you
care about and enjoy. But the constant pressure to
love your job sets people up to feel crushed when
it doesn’t unlock a deep sense of fulfillment. So just like Emily,
from time to time, many of us could stand
to be reminded that a job is just a job. “I hope you know that
this is a very difficult job, for which you
are totally wrong. And if you mess up, my head
is on the chopping block.” Emily is a model of what
not to do in your career. “You may never ask
Miranda anything.” It’s one thing to work
all the time because you genuinely
love what you do. “You’re off work, Cristina.
Go enjoy your day.” “No, I’ll enjoy my day if I can
help retrieve a heart, I promise.” But Emily never actually
seems happy at Runway. “So until she decides that
you are not a total psycho, I get the lovely task of
waiting around for the Book.” During her time there, she
sacrifices her sense of self, and self-respect, for the job. Under the pressure of her industry,
she goes on starvation diets, “You look so thin.” “Do I?”
“Yeah.” “Oh it’s for Paris, well
I’m on this new diet, it’s very effective.
Well, I don’t eat anything. And then when I feel
like I’m about to faint, I eat a cube of cheese.” and comes to the office
even when she’s terribly sick. “How’s the cold doing?” “Like death warmed up.” She gets hit by a car because
she’s so distracted running an errand for Miranda —
showing how her commitment to work is literally
putting her life at risk. And if she continues
on this road, like many an addict,
she will kill herself. This disregard for her
own well-being suggests that Emily doesn’t
really value herself. “What took you so long?
I have to pee!” “What? You haven’t
peed since I left?” “No, I haven’t.
I’ve been manning the desk, haven’t I?
I’m bursting.” She’s internalized
the negativity that permeates Runway’s
workplace culture. “It’s just Miranda wanted
some scarves from Hermes. And she did tell me yesterday,
but I forgot like an idiot.” And Emily is well on her way
to a problem facing many in the overstretched
millennial workforce: burnout. Buzzfeed’s Anne Helen
Petersen named millennials the burnout generation. “You deserve paid work.” “I can’t get paid work.
I just graduated from Cornell with a business
degree. That’s the worst Ivy.” Thompson argues that this
is due to a combination of student debt, entering
the workforce post-recession, and the way social media has
heightened the pressure to present an image of
success to one’s peers. Meanwhile, instant
communication has made it so there is no clear
work/life divide anymore. “Andrea, Miranda decided to
kill the autumn jacket story for September and she is
pulling up the Sedona shoot from October. You need to come into
the office right this second and pick up her coffee
order on the way.” The romance around work
strategically glosses over the fact that being
a workaholic isn’t a choice for most of us. “To jobs that pay the rent.”
“Yes.” “To jobs that pay the rent.” Our country’s policies
essentially force people to work a lot. We get little vacation
time, new parents aren’t guaranteed paid leave,
our healthcare system makes many people reliant
on their jobs for insurance, and even getting
welfare assistance usually requires proof
of employment. And a study by the Washington
Center for Equitable Growth found that because people’s
output can’t always be measured in a concrete
way, companies tend to “unconsciously use working
hours and ‘facetime’ as a way to estimate their employees’
productivity and commitment to their jobs.” “He’s in here every night at
9:00. Every morning at 8:00.” But in the long-run,
workaholism doesn’t serve employers well either. People who are overworked
are less productive and more likely to make mistakes. “Oh, my God. I just can’t
remember what his name is. I just saw his name this morning
on the list It’s–Oh, I know this.” Even if you don’t care if
the rest of your life falls apart, you still shouldn’t be
like Emily because her non-stop-work style
doesn’t help her get ahead. How does Miranda show
her appreciation for the way Emily is killing herself
for this job? “Details of your incompetence
do not interest me.” She’s been at Runway
longer than Andy, but the new girl with no
experience overtakes her in less than a year
to become Miranda’s preferred assistant. “I need the best
possible team with me. That no longer
includes Emily.” After Miranda betrays
Emily by choosing Andy to accompany her to Paris,
Emily still returns to work for this person who clearly
does not value her. By the end, Andy is
pursuing her real dream of being a journalist,
while Emily hasn’t moved forward an inch. “You have some very
large shoes to fill. I hope you know that.” Employees need
to have boundaries, but Emily doesn’t have
Andy’s instinct to question conventions that seem
ridiculous and downright cruel. “One time an assistant
left the desk because she sliced her hand open
with a letter opener and Miranda missed Lagerfeld
just before he boarded a 17-hour flight to Australia.
She now works at TV Guide.” At a certain point if you
want your superiors’ respect, you need to assert yourself. “You’re never going to get
that corner office until you start treating Don as an equal.” As we discussed in
our Miranda video, Andy’s show of self-respect
is what earns her a second look from Miranda
in the first place. “I’m smart, I learn fast,
and I will work very hard.” Meanwhile Emily’s
haughtiness towards Andy reveals that she
isn’t able to see past appearances to the deeper
qualities that an employer might value, like having
a unique voice and take on the world. “I mean, I have no idea
why Miranda hired her.” Career excellence requires
other qualities in addition to devotion and long hours. Emily plays too much
by the rules, she doesn’t invest in other areas
of her life, she loses her joy, and most
importantly, she doesn’t put herself before the job. “I refuse to be sick. I’m wearing Valentino,
for crying out loud.” She’s so fixated on
what’s required of her that she’s willing to
efface her identity. “You do not talk to anyone.
Do not look at anyone. This is of the utmost
Importance, you must be invisible.
Do you understand?” This makes her
a good assistant, as that’s a role that
requires supporting someone else’s career,
but workaholism alone will not make you
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  • this voice threw me

  • Churches are also a business. Revenue > Costs or else they must close.

  • Is anyone else wondering if John Krasinski has watched this?

  • Emily Blunt is breathtaking! Had to say it a million times to get it out of my system ✨😭

  • I just got this in my recommendations while I’m very sick but still considering going into college

  • Your references are unbelievable in this one. Chaplin’s Modern Times and MTM. Such a feel good video with so much quality. Thank you!

  • Wait. So Emily is the workaholic but Miranda is the perfect one? You basically defended Miranda in the last video and praised Andy for growing up and stuff, but now are saying that Emily is the cautionary tale? I mean, Andy’s friends did not want her to become a workaholic, but you framed it as being unsupportive. So, what gives?

  • That last point is contradictory, Miranda gives everything for her career the way Emily does, the difference is Emily's not as smart and commanding as Miranda but if the topic is workaholics they're in the same unhealthy level

  • this was a fantastic video

  • uh oh betterhelp

  • Toxic work places carry on being toxic, because so many people don't stand up for themselves and it becomes the norm. I finally realised my workplace wasn't doing anything for me anymore, and quit on the spot. Small company, I'd been there for a long time and all those promises of better pay and so on never happened. Without going into huge details the boss had created a very toxic atmosphere, there was no team or sense of worth. The boss also had temper tantrums and wold literally throw objects across the room. Some of my other collegues did leave too, and some have said it was the worst job they ever had, but when you need to pay the bills you will put up with almost anything.

  • "A job is just a job."
    That could only be said by people who don't need work to survive.

  • "Modern American culture has a love affair with working yourself to the bone,:
    Japan: "Hold my beeru"

  • Americans are so strange, working ourselves to death and trading our personal lives for more money.

  • Well, do we really even have a choice? My experience says NO with certainty. It´s "workaholic like everyone does" or go.

    Sozial darwinism selecting those, who are the best at being a robot. Survival of the obedientest.

  • I always thought nigel was the hero of that story and everyone else was too preoccupied with superficial things. Nigel was there for the art. he was reading runway under the covers as kid. miranda considers him an equal. and he's amazing at his work clearly since he was first considered for a partnership at another company. and he's never SEEN paris!! honestly if there's anyone deserves the world AND a happy ending it's not andy who hates her job, not miranda who's unreasonable, not emily who blindly worships her boss, not nate whos insensitive and not even their friends, who were SO SHITTY after being given FREE STUFF! It's NIGEL. who, even when backstabbed in front of the world, is still a loyal friend who can only hope. I want a spinoff.

  • 9/11 ended those 90s slacker films, when Americans had a patriotic duty to work and then spend to defeat the terrorists. Don't question the logic, just love America.

  • "Emily plays too much by the rules". Seeing what that does to a person's self esteem, it's clear the rules not only need to be broken, they need to be rewritten.

    It wasn't always like this.

  • not gonna lie, this whole video has stressed me out

  • Hey, it's kind of unfair to immediately assume that a man economically dependent on his wife is doing less housework to punish her. It's much more likely that he's depressed, and depressed people find it difficult to muster the energy to stay on top of routine chores. There are more empathetic and less insidious explanations out there. When men aren't bringing home the lion's share in a relationship, most tend to deal with a lot of shame and guilt and depression, and having people out there telling them, "Oh, you're just being spiteful because your wife is doing better than you," doesn't help at all. I'm not saying that's never the case, of course it is sometimes, but to automatically assume that it is and not even consider the idea that it's stemming from depression is just cruel.

    That being said, I enjoyed this video. It made me think about my own attitude towards work. I struggle with not feeling like enough, like I'm working enough hours, making enough money, contributing enough to my household. This made me stop and consider where those feelings might really be coming from. Am I looking for fulfillment from work that I'll just never find there? Would my energy be better spent on passion projects and friendships and perhaps religion? Good questions I need to be asking myself. Thank you for helping me raise them.

  • 1. Let's say you don't work at a shitty job but an interesting one you like.

    2. If you're past the 1st congratulations, however now imagine you get good enough to realise actually how the ideals or perspectives you pursued by advancing into this career weren't there and that to actually hit the top you have to become the sort of person who doesn't actually believe in those ideals but is in fact actively damaging and undermining them to be part of an industry based around them.

    3. See how this destroys your worldview by chewing up the best decade of your life which is wasted on a lie you were told because it lined someone else's pockets which you were too stupid to see.

    4. Good luck trying to repair any of the social fabric, relationships or prospects of family and community you left behind in your pursuit.

    There is nothing out there which can complete you which you can't find in yourself – however by the end of this process you might find that doesn't even exist anymore, I'm glad you're starting to figure it out but the debt monster already ate you – too late.

  • Sponge Bob is workaholic but he loves his job

  • I cant even get a job

  • LOVE this series! I’ve always been very ambitious, and growing up, I placed Miranda Priestly as a career ideal. As I got older and began my career (especially working with startups and startup culture) I realized it’s all a lot more complicated than even the in-depth exploration that the movie portrayed. This series dives into the nuance and uses the Devil Wears Prada as an awesome, effective lens to look closer at our work and ourselves

  • Americans replaced religion with work, she said..and they work A LOT! 47 hours per week.
    Norwegians, they work 35 hours per week, the plurality of Norwegians do not believe in a god.
    How do they do it…? It's a mystery

  • I hate when people get promoted solely because they rant about how wonderful their job and the company are. It's okay to feel like it's just a job and still be really good at it.

  • Ohhh, might we get some Grey's Anatomy analyses soon? 🙂

  • Man fuck work, work to live not live to work. The brainwashing really got to the millennials, i think its going to be different with gen z

  • It's fine to love your job, but always remember that it will never love you back.

  • I've been waiting for this video for a long time

  • This video literally made me remember that I need to send an email 😅🤦🏾‍♀️

  • Is that Rashida Jones narrating?

  • Please do character studies on the tv show lost like you did with the office

  • "Comes to the office even when she's terribly sick!" It's a cold. Yeah they make you feel like you're dying but it's still just a bloody cold. The majority of colds you can't do anything about so just get on with it.

  • I've been once to a Wework place. I wanted to rent an apartment there

  • This video was simply inspirational.

  • Do something with players club!

  • This def rashida lol

  • I'm glad to see how big your channel has gotten. Congrats

  • I feel like school is an important part of this discussion. I often feel like I need to devote myself to schoolwork… for what? 'My future'–just like Emily devotes herself for hers, to get ahead. Ive gone to school sick, tired and miserable–but i can't quit.

  • The good thing about burnout: you've got to learn everything about your dormant diseases much earlier. Cuz they start kicking hard. And once you're on hospital bed – you know it's time for re-evaluation.

  • can you please do a video on mr robot and why Darlene is the most underrated character in the series <3

  • What sadist says "thank God it's Monday"?!? That sounds like a cheesy Twitter-sponsored hashtag

    Honestly, very interesting overview! Fascinating to see where the "live-to-work" mentality stemmed from

  • Excellent video 👏👏👏

  • Do Major Kira from Deep Space Nine!

  • As someone who’s worked in the fashion industry, the industry is in fact populated by angry, bitter, evil people who live to work and think everyone else should too. The make the industry hellish for no reason. 🙄

  • I tried to be a career woman. I was going to school at the same time as well. Never in my life was I so miserable, depressed and even suicidal at one point. I couldn't handle the stress and pressure. My relationship was suffering… until finally my now husband assured me that he would take care of the financial burden and focus on his career as long as we tried for a baby and that I would take care of the house, along with living a more frugal lifestyle.

    It was like a dream come true because he wanted children, so did I. So we took on a more natural and traditional approach to our marriage. I'm finally starting to heal, I'm finally less stressed and anxious about getting on time to work. Or meeting deadlines.

    I can't believe that I was brainwashed from such an early age to pursue a career and that would be the ONLY thing I had to focus on. Nobody mentioned anything to me about family and relationships… now that I grow older family seems to be the most important thing in life. Having people that you love and trust in your life, and building something with them is truly a joy unparalleled to a "career". Seeing your child's smile is another joy that cannot be bought with money.
    I found the hard way that men compared to women are just built to handle more stress and more crap that comes towards them. My husband rarely talks or complains about work, he just does it and also enjoys being the leader. Whenever he comes home from work I always make sure he has a quiet place to rest and something to eat… I also enjoy giving him massages. I take care of him, he takes care of us- his family. I couldn't be more grateful.

  • Maybe, just maybe, instead of saying that men/husbands/boyfriends are still uncomfortable with women's success so they penalize them for it at home, we say something like 'you should find a person (not necessarily a man either) that respects you and your success and when they don't, you call them out on it and take radical steps to quash that sort of behaviour'? I get that you can't fight everyone so broader social goals are in the works and will be for a while…. but when you experience this BS from people you know, you shouldnt just take it. Especially not from an intimate partner that you're trying to build a life with.

  • During college, so many people used to give us pep talks about "finding your passion". I thought I was meant to find the job that energized me, that made me want to jump out of bed in the morning, that made me giddy with joy all the time. That's why I kept thinking I needed to switch majors and keep trying different options because nothing was making me feel the way I was supposed to feel. Until I finally graduated with no job and then took whatever job I could, found it was fine, found that I could have a life, and realized I didn't need to find passion – just needed to find something I could live with.

  • Omg I would love it if you would do a character analysis of Jared from Silicon Valley!

  • I prefer the other narrators.

  • See Emily is bad at her job because she has no self respect. She does all the jobs when she's asked but they don't have that extra finish. And she has no talent to fall back on when she isn't up to hard work. So she has to do lots more work than Andy, Miranda or Nigel who still have self respect to make up for it. Which shows even less self-respect. It's a vicious cycle. Emily wants to be Category 3 but you need talent to do that. Not just hard work. Plus the self respect means Andy and Miranda have other interests. Miranda has her children and Andy has her writing and Nigel seems to genuinely love his job.

  • Why does the narrator sound like Rashida Jones?


  • Thank you, so much, for this video!

  • I love this content! Please keep it coming.

  • 5:26–5:32 ME!

  • I'm in a relationship with someone and there's every possibility that we could get married. The fact that this individual I could probably easily agree to a commuter marriage with no children is such a relief. As a woman I don't want to ever have to give up my own monetary freedom simply to have a relationship. When I was younger and I watched The Devil Wears Prada I might have agreed a bit more with Andy but the truth is is that the person I aspire to be is Miranda. And yes I know that she's a cautionary tale and I don't aspire to be her without being fully aware of what I'm aspiring to. I know that I will lose important parts of life in order to gain other parts. I feel like I don't have a choice. I was a millennial and turn 20 two months after the recession starting. And that experience has been ridiculously formative to my psyche and my approach to work and my approach to money and my relationship with everything. I look at my significant other who was about 25 when the recession started I was 20 and my sister was 16. My so and I have drastically different relationships with money and the gathering of wealth than my sister. She decided that she could take a job in another country that pays her diddly-squat where the two of us are trying to find high-powered jobs that could bringing a lot of money quickly so even if another recession happens were able to financially get through it. Do I love the concept of working constantly? No I really don't but I don't see another way not in this country at least.

  • Listening to this while I'm working… and thinking about how it would be great if HR would watch it

  • You have to be insane to work that hard just to wear a designer dress.

  • There is one workaholic type in school is that asks "do we have homework?"

  • This video is a perfect companion piece to Wisecrack's video on How to Beat the System

  • Better help, really?

  • Let me guess,
    Toxic masculinity.

  • Hmm. I feel like I needed to hear this. I feel as if I’m about to stretch myself out by working almost full time and going to school at the same time. I’m okay for now but I do think I need to step back from work for a little bit. I rarely have time to hang out with my family anymore because of work and it’s not even in the field I wanna do in the long run. This is definitely making me think. Good job! I love The Devil Wears Prada so I really appreciate this!

  • This is highlighted on Queer Eye quite often too, many of the nominated people work so hard for so long that they no longer take basic care of themselves or have any time/space to actually shape a life/personality/home outside of their job. They also don't feel like they deserve self care because they see it as "selfish" to spend any time thinking about yourself and your wellbeing. I hope things continue to change toward self care and taking time to just be.

  • This is so sad. There's more to life than work, and that's coming from someone who enjoys her job.

  • I've always been reluctant to voice my thoughts for fear of immediately being branded lazy. I've just felt for a long time now that I absolutely do not fit the mold of what we're told to celebrate and strive for, at least in the US. Obviously hard work & a strong work ethic is something to be commended, but not when it's to the detriment of your health and wellbeing. I've never been about making a job my life. I see it as a grim necessity to get by in modern life. I've never understood the constant urging to "Be an entrepreneur! Start your own business!" I've always been like wtf I don't wanna start a business – I'm not a business-minded person at all – nor do I personally wanna be bogged down in the whole climbing the corporate ladder culture. It's these certain components of capitalism that encourage greediness and materialism and pressure us into constantly feeling we must do more, more, more on the off chance that we'll get that projected grand prize of making and having more, more, more.

    I hate that we're made to feel ashamed or lazy for having free time as well. Wow, having time on your hands, imagine that?! It's like if we're not booked and busy every single hour of every day, we're – God forbid – being unproductive, the ultimate sin. And I found the part about callings particularly interesting. I'd never thought about it like that, that many of us have been conditioned to believe that our "calling" might come only in the form of structured work as we know it instead of perhaps being derived from a more immaterial or spiritual place.

    This culture extols working yourself to the bone to a frightening degree, sometimes turning it into a contest of who suffers the most and has therefore earned some sort of masochistic pride from that. Unfortunately it's the reality for so many ppl to be forced to stay in jobs they hate simply to get by, and I hate that. Life just shouldn't be that hard, not in this day and age. I'm so relieved there's been more emphasis on work-life balance lately, but I think any headway we'll make collectively as a society regarding that will definitely take time as all big changes do, unfortunately. And it's clearly not really that people want to be workaholics – it's largely a result of the current economic system and what it forces us to do just to survive. One of my biggest wishes is that I could see into the far future to see how attitudes toward work will've shifted and if there will've been another movement that revolutionized how we work/the economy in general. It's pretty crazy how new this whole rigid workday schedule is, considering how the Industrial Revolution and advent of the 8-hr workday were practically a nanosecond ago in relation to all of human history.

  • My new job was nice, but pretty fast when I joined the company they started making differences, changes on how to work, it used to be healthy environment, where you do your job well and you are not constantly bothered, and they pride themselves with that. Now they are just trying to "eliminate time waste" and to basically turn us into machines because money.

  • Watching this the day after I worked from 7:30am to 9:30 pm with 5 hours off the clock. Welcome to teaching in America. 🤷🏻‍♀️

  • Who's been reading my diary? 👀

  • I was completely agreeing with the video until they started talking about country laws, company policy, paid leave and health insurance. It's really interesting to see how different videos can be, just because of the country's they're made in. Especially because I sometimes forget when watching content on the internet.

  • I'm very disappointed that you promote betterhelp. Many people have been scammed by this company and made awful experiences with it. I hope that everyone who plans on signing up to this website does their research beforehand

  • Please don’t promote betterhelp! They really don’t help, and they have a very bad reputation!

  • Elements of the workforce scam:
    1) You must love your job
    2) You must find work-life balance
    3) You must take care of your mental health.

    The truth is: 1) Working is unpleasant, so people should not exploit me; 2) My time and resources are limited, so people should not leech off my time and they should pay me enough to have a life; 3) Chronical unhappiness and anxiety are symptoms of sh*tty life conditions, so people should not let anyone live with constant uncertainty and performance pressure.

  • I feel it was easier for Andy to not lose herself in the job because she never identified with it. Her real dream was to be a journalist, whereas Emily and Nigel’s identity was wrapped in their job so they sacrificed everything including themselves.

  • Thakns for this essay "I needed that".

  • It's propaganda created by soulless capitalists.

  • What are you reading this comment? Shouldn't you be working and wanting that too?

  • Whoa… Better Help is back? Geez…

  • I'm a CSE major and my professor gave us a group project. In the middle of it he assigns us an exam and design assignment. I also have a producer who tries to micromanage me in another class. Worst semester of my life. 😭

  • choosing a "dream job" to me just sounds kinda redundant. if i have a boss telling me what to do, what not to do and have dead lines, there's no love for my job that's gonna make that fun every day. obviously, you shouldn't go for a career you hate just for the money, but people should learn that there's a middle ground, it doesn't always need to be 8 or 80.

  • Hands down, one of the best videos with the most powerful messages this channel's ever produced.

  • before the video starts, I think that the workaholic trend starts at school
    as students we get pushed to do our best even if it breaks us

  • As a recent college grad, I can't find a job yet I'm still burned out (college itself and job-seeking). I so relate to the diagnosis of this video! Corporate worshipping and workaholism are total bullshit, designed to exploit our labor without due rewards (all the unpaid internships? jfc). I wish we could find a way out of this difficult time.

  • Emily Blunt is so gorgeous

  • Could you do an analysis on Sweetbitter or Euphoria? I think you'd find some beautiful things!

  • what the hell was that part with them having to get on the floor with pigs screaming in the background?

  • Currently unemployed. My first and only "adult" job that I had for the past 4 years sucked away at my mental health. It's actually crazy how much happier I am now that I don't have to go back to that place every day. I often cry at the thought of getting a job like that again. I really hope someday I can just get something that actually makes me feel happy when I get home.

  • 18:17 where non-americans tune out

  • please do blair waldorf from gossip girl!!

  • Anyone thinking a workaholic life is high-powered or fulfilling, never spent time as a retail manager

  • My mom quit working to raise me and my siblings. She is very smart and driven, has a masters degree, and constantly volunteers, so one day when I was young, I asked her why she decided to quit her job when she could have been very successful. She told me “no one lies on their deathbed thinking “damn, I should have worked more”, but many, many people, lie there and think “I should have spent more time with the people I loved.”’ It really put things into perspective for me

  • 20 hours a week is the maximum that I ever care to do working.

  • No!! Peggy is not an every woman!! The only person better than her in that office is Don draper

    I changed my mind, you're wrong about basically everything!!

  • Being a homemaker is also a job. Never forget that!

  • I like that, "being workaholic will not make you the next Miranda Priestly"

  • I was working myself too hard in my job which isn't even close to what I actually want to do. Coming in a half hour early unpaid and always staying after to make sure everything was done. Now I go in 10-2 mins early. Still leave when the work is done but its important to set boundaries. At first they were annoyed and considered 10 mins early as late. But now when I come in extra early on busy days its properly appreciated.

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